When I (Nereyda) first started blogging, one of the very first bloggers I remember following is Nick. Almost 5 years later, I never thought that Nick and I would become such great friends, much less co-bloggers. My first memory of Nick was a book haul post where she mentioned that she was auto -approved by Harper Teen on Edelweiss and I was like ‘whaaaaaat? this is possible???’ I started checking her blog regularly to see what she was doing that got her on the auto-approve list. To this day, I never did figure out her secret and I feel a little bit cheated. But I guess it’s all good because a great friendship formed because of that.
Nick’s Random Commentary: Hahaha! It wasn’t a big secret. The only thing I did do was pester them by requesting multiple times. They must have gotten tired of me and been like “here, auto approval, don’t bother me again!”. Can you guys believe it’s been 6 months since we’ve started co-blogging! It just feels like yesterday, when we decided to super secretly start to blog together! And I have loved every moment of these 6 months because I feel like I’ve gotten to know Nereyda so much better.
For a few years, most of our interactions was simply through comments on each others blogs and checking out each others Goodread’s updates. Once in a while, we would email if we had something else to talk about, but it was mostly comments. A few years ago, Nick emailed me to ask about Ignite Me since I had gotten an early copy and one thing led to another and it ended up being the longest email thread I’ve ever had. I finally made Nick get Hangouts since I suck at checking my emails and we’ve talked almost every single day since then. I think it’s funny that it was Ignite Me that really catapulted this friendship into what it is, since Nick haaaaates that series and I loooove it. See, it’s possible for book lovers to still be friends and be respectful even when they don’t agree on the same books!
Nick’s Random Commentary: I LOVE that we started our friendship because I hated the book and she loved it. It goes to show just how different all our opinions are, but that simultaneously, it’s perfectly possible to be respectful of each other’s opinions. There’s a lot we disagree on, cold milk v/s warm milk in cereal – #teamwarmmilk, for example, but we actually respectfully discuss why and try to see the others’ viewpoint.
Nick and I had been joking around for a few months about coblogging together and honestly, she is the only person I would ever even consider coblogging with. Since taking the plunge, it’s been my favorite decision blogging-wise yet. Co-blogging may not be for everyone but if it’s something that interests you, you can definitely make it work! Here are some tips on our co-blogging process and how it works for us.
Make sure you really trust the person you are considering co-blogging with and you have a great friendship beyond books:
This is obviously the most important part. In the almost 5 years I’ve been blogging, I’ve seen co-bloggers split up or kicked out of their blog for some reason or another. Our blogs are important to us and we put a lot of work into it and we should only do this with someone we trust and who we know would never do something like try to kick us out of the blog. Although we always joke around with each other about doing this, I know it will never happen. Obviously it was our mutual love of books that brought us together, but we also have a great friendship beyond the books. Most times, we don’t even talk about books. If there ever comes a day when we are no longer blogging, I think our friendship is safe because it’s become so much more than books and blogging. Even though we don’t always like the same books, we have very similar taste in books which made things that much easier when we decided to coblog.
Nick’s Random Commentary: This is so important if you’re planning on co-blogging. Make sure that your personalities mesh well together. If you’re very different in personalities, the likelihood of co-blogging working for you is very low. We’re both weirdos, have similar tastes and have similar opinions about a lot of things. I think that we were good friends and also the fact that we’re similar is what makes co-blogging work for us. If you’re planning on looking for co-bloggers, I highly recommend getting to know them better before and after you take the dive. Communication is key to a successful co-blogging experience, in my opinion. Don’t always talk about books either. Talk about your lives, your pets, your insecurities. Basically, make your co-blogger your bestie. Nereyda and I are close to the point that I even know her passwords, what her kids look like and she knows what I weigh (maybe …) and what my workout routine is like. I’m not saying everyone should have that kind of relationship, but trust is really important when it comes to co-blogging!
Nick was well aware of how much I suck as a blogger before we decided to coblog. I don’t really plan stuff (I’m trying to do better) and I never schedule my posts in advanced, they are always last minute, and she never makes me feel guilty or bad about it. I know Nick loves to make pretty graphics and buttons and loves to play around with fonts and our design layout and I’m perfectly fine with it. I know whatever font she picks or whatever graphic she add is gonna be great so I don’t even worry about it. She also knows that I’m a very slow reader so if we want to review a certain book together, she gives me plenty of time to get the book read. Since Nick and I live in different countries and have an 11-hour time difference between us, we always try to take advantage of the hours where we are both awake and online to do our joint posts. Although the time difference doesn’t make things harder for us, I’m definitely ready for us both to be in the same country again! And as much as we both care about our blog, we know that life comes first.
Nick’s Random Commentary: Here’s how I see it, I do my own thing, and Nereyda does her own thing. She doesn’t tell me how I should write my reviews nor do I tell her that she has to make graphics. I’ve never been a controlling person, so I don’t give a crap as to what Nereyda does with her days and neither does she. I think that has significantly made our co-blogging smoother.
Don’t be controlling or anal about schedules:
I think part of the reason why coblogging comes so effortless to us is that we are so laid back about it all. Since I’m not usually home or on my computers on weekends, Nick takes Mondays and I take Tuesdays. If we have an idea for a post we do it together on Wednesdays and we switch off Thursdays and Fridays and we do our weekly recaps on Saturdays. She usually sets up her part of the recap first and adds our links for the week, while I add my part after and add the search terms. We never really established we would do things this way, it just kind of happened and it works. We have a calendar where we sometimes write what we have planned on our assigned dates, but we don’t always use it or else those plans get changed last minute. If one of us (usually me) doesn’t feel like posting a certain day or is too busy to post then we just don’t and if one of us needs a break then we take it. Above all, we always want to make sure we’re still enjoying blogging and treating it like a fun hobby.
Nick’s Random Commentary: Setting up a general schedule is helpful, in my opinion. Like Nereyda said, we know Monday belongs to me and we switch between Thursdays and Fridays. But I don’t go crazy on Nereyda if she misses one of her days and neither does she if I miss one of mine. I don’t think it helps if you’re chasing after your co-blogger to make sure she’s posting on her days. Reminders are okay with me, but if Nereyda sent me passive aggressive tweets or messages telling me to post already, I’d tell her #byefelicia. She’d probably say something meaner to me if I did it to her – haha! 😀 Again, communication is crucial to a successful co-blogging journey. Even when she doesn’t post anything, I appreciate it when Nereyda tells me that she isn’t going to do it, because that way, I can decide to post a post or decide that I want to take a break as well. In the end, this is a hobby and real life comes first. I think if you put pressure on your co-bloggers to produce content, you strain the relationship, because really, who likes to be forced to do things?
In the end, co-blogging has really changed our lives in a very good way. I was honestly close to quitting blogging last year shortly before we decided to co-blog because it was starting to feel like a chore. Co-blogging has made us much happier and relaxed bloggers and most importantly, we’re actually having fun again. 🙂
Have you thought about getting on a co-blogger? If you have co-bloggers, what’s your favorite thing about it? If you don’t, what are your thoughts on co-blogging?
If you have any questions for us about co-blogging or want to help ease your mind about co-blogging if you’re planning on it, but are a little afraid, let us know in the comments below!
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