When Nick & Nereyda Don’t Like The Same Books

Posted May 25, 2016 by Nick & Nereyda/ 24 Comments

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Lately, we’ve been seeing lots of arguments on Twitter and Goodreads about a certain new release that has the fandom divided. As with any book, some hated the book and some loved it, but instead of being respectful of each other’s opinions, people are tearing each other down. We’ve seen lots of name-calling and passive-agressive tweets/comments when this book is brought into discussion. Honestly, it’s a little disheartening to see that people still don’t understand the meaning of personal preferences and the fact that everybody is entitled to their own opinion. Calling someone an idiot for liking or disliking a book that you hated or liked is truly uncalled for. We’re all book-lovers here and that should be enough for us to be polite to one another when we disagree on books. It’s really not that hard.

More often than not, Nereyda and I have very similar tastes in books. We both like/dislike the same themes and same genres, so it’s easy to end up loving or hating the same books. However, over the years that we’ve been friends, there have been a couple of titles that we had differing opinions on.  In today’s post, we thought we would share some of these books with you and give you a brief reason why they worked or didn’t work for us. Basically, we hope that by the time you finish reading this post, you’ll see that friends can agree to disagree on books but still get along fine and dandy.

P.S The title is joke. We like each other just fine even when we don’t agree on books.

Ignite Me by Tahereh Mafi

Ignite Me (Shatter Me, #3)

Nick: I didn’t read this book, but I read enough spoilers to know that I would absolutely despise it and how the book evolved. My main reason for being upset with this book is simply that the author basically did a retcon when it came to a certain character so that she can make way for her end-game couple. In my opinion, that’s lazy writing and it honestly made no sense to me. I was also super  annoyed with how all the shit that Warner pulled in the previous books was conveniently explained by a lame plot trope. All in all, this is probably one of my most-hated titles ever.
Still though, I kind of see it as a good thing as well because it helped Nereyda and I become closer. Before this book’s release, we only communicated through comments, but when I saw she had read the book early, I emailed her asking for spoilers and thus began our friendship! Who would have thought that my hate for a book and her love for it would bring us closer and would eventually lead to us becoming co-bloggers? 🙂

Nereyda:  This is one of my favorite book series, I just love the damn books and I have no problem with the fact that Nick hates it and hates Warner. After all, I think we sometimes forget that these are fictional people. I read this series late, when book two had already been out for a while and all I heard about was this Warner person. When I finally read it I joined in on the ‘I love Warner’ fan club. From following Nick’s blog and her Goodreads and Twitter, I already knew that she hated Warner and it never once made me not want to keep being friends with her. I was lucky enough to get an early copy of this book and when Nick say I had read this she emailed me to ask me a few questions about it. That email thread ended up being weeks long where we ended up talking about pretty much everything else and I find it so funny that we bonded over a book that she hates and I love.

Addicted to You by Krista & Becca Ritchie

Addicted to You (Addicted, #1)

Nick: I adore this book and this series. It’s one of the few NA books where I can actually handle the angst. The characters really speak to me because I thought they were so well-developed. I pushed this book on Nereyda but unfortunately she wasn’t a fan. Boo!

Nereyda: Man oh man, I hated this book! I was really excited for this because I was sure that I would love it because it sounded like something would like and my rule is that if Nick likes it, then there’s a 95% chance that I will like it too. Unfortunately, this book happened to be that other 5%. I tried to like this book, I really did, and I liked the beginning of it because the chemistry was crazy good. But the MC (I don’t remember her name…Lo?) was every single thing I hate about book characters, especially female characters. The sex addict thing just came off as too much for me and I think it was the part where she said her wrist hurt from masturbating for hours that I was like oh hell no, sorry book but you aren’t for me!

Beautiful Disaster by Jamie McGuire

Beautiful Disaster (Beautiful, #1)

Nick: Beautiful Disaster is quite honestly my most hated book of all-time. I wanted to burn the book when I was done and wondered what on earth other readers saw in the piece of shit that’s Travis Maddox. I’m honestly surprised Nereyda and my friendship survived this book because my hate for this book is so vicious! Haha! I think we’ve agreed not to talk about this book at all. Plus, it helps that she hated the subsequent books! 😉

Nereyda: What can I say, this was one of the very first NA books that I had ever read and I was hooked! There was so much I hated about the book. It was over the top crazy dramatic and Abby is one of the biggest piece of shit characters ever and Travis is not that far behind…but I was still addicted to this in some weird way. The chemistry is what got me, but I’m pretty positive that if I were to reread this I would either hate it or not like it as much. I tried reading the next book Walking Disaster and hated it so much that I couldn’t even finish. Abby is one of my most hated book characters ever and I couldn’t make myself read the same story again. I also tried to read the next book about one of the Maddox brothers and it was one of the worst books I’ve read with such a bullshit twist.  I had fun telling Nick all about how much I hated the other books.

White Hot Kiss by Jennifer L Armentrout

White Hot Kiss (The Dark Elements, #1)

Nick: JLA’s books and I just don’t get along. I liked the first few books in her original series, but I got tired of them very quickly. I wasn’t going to try White Hot Kiss, but I had decided to give it a shot because I had seen raving reviews from friends, but ehhhh. The author’s characters are all the same. If you’ve read one book, you’ve met ALL her characters. And I got tired with the lack of plot and world too here.

Nereyda:  I used to really like JLA’s books because her chemistry was always so good. I read this one and loved it but was so annoyed by the love triangle bullshit. After reading book two of this I got tired of how her characters and stories are allll the same. I had no interest in finishing this series.

Dare You To by Katie McGarry

Dare You To (Pushing the Limits, #2)

Nick: Having loved the first book, I was DYING to read Dare You To and couldn’t wait to meet Ryan. But man, did Beth take away from my enjoyment of the book. I had a really tough time with her being angry and rude all the time. I definitely didn’t hate it, it was a 3 stars read for me, but I was hoping to give it a 5 stars! Not even the swoony Ryan could save this book for me.

Nereyda: Being an angry person myself, I could totally relate to Beth. I admit that sometimes her moods got on my nerves, just like I’m sure my moods sometimes get on other people’s nerves, but I still really liked her and Ryan and the rest of the gang. I loved how sex positive this was and how the girl was the experienced one and Ryan was such a squeaky clean good boy. As much as I love Katie McGarry’s books, I need a new story from her other than poor kids with shitty or no parents…

These are just a few of the books that we have disagreed on, as you can see, having a different opinion on a book doesn’t mean that you have to be personally offended and it doesn’t have to affect a friendship. The important part is that other than our reviews, we never really address these books. If they do come up, we never talk bad about the book or say anything that would make the other person feel bad for liking/not liking the book. I know Nick hates the Shatter Me series, she knows I love it. I know Nick loves the Addicted series, she knows that I didn’t like it at all. There has never been any ‘I can’t believe you liked that book’ or one of us trying to convince the other on our views and opinions on the books.  We respect our opinions on the books and move on. After all, there are so many books that we both love (or that we both hate) that we can talk about instead so why focus on the books we disagree on?

Are there any books that you and a friend disagree on? How do you deal with it? Let us know in the comments!

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  • I loved this post. There has been so much nasty stuff being said the last couple of days in relation to not liking books. And I don’t really care if someone doesn’t like a book that I love, it’s thier opinion. I only dislike it when they don’t really give reasons. Other than that – that can do what they want.

    Thanks for the post

  • I am HUGE fan of Addicted series as whole. To tell the truth, it is my all time favorite NA series ever written. BUT I can totally understand how can someone be turn off by what was going on in the first book. So I understand where you are coming from, Nereyda.
    And just to add my two cents to the topic…I truly do not understand why some people cannot understand the fact that everybody is entitled to their own opinion, especially when it comes to the books, movies and art in general. My brain just stops whenever I see comments like “your opinion is wrong…” etc.

  • I feel out of the loop, probably because I don’t spend much time on Twitter anymore, so I don’t know what book is causing all the fuss. But I agree with you guys completely – we all like what we like and should be respectful when talking to someone with a differing opinion. This seems like a pretty common sense thing to me, so it never fails to surprise me when the drama happens.

    Confession: I have yet to read the Addicted to You series! I feel like my reaction might be more in line with Nereyda’s, at least for the book that features sex addiction. It’s a hard thing for me to wrap my mind around, and I always have trouble when a character sleeps around (male or female), especially in a romance. So, despite the overwhelming praise for that book, I still haven’t picked it up. *sigh* I would like to read something they’ve written though, maybe the circus one!

  • I love that you two made this post and I love that you don’t always love the same books, how boring would it be if you did? I love discussions about books and our likes and dislikes that we can do maturely and have fun doing it. I love that you both can do this. I think it is sad when others can play nicely together. There is no reason to ever bash someone’s likes or dislikes.

    I have no idea what book you are referencing in Twitterland but I think I can guess based on some reviews I’ve seen for it lately. I have it coming up to read next month too so it will be interesting to see if I love it or hate it.

  • I always die a little when someone doesn’t love a book I gave my soul too…but I silently cry inside since we all carry our own emotional luggage that affects the way we react to books. Great post!

  • Oh I love this post! I agree, I am a bit surprised at all the drama over the divided fandoms. What happened to people having different opinions and being able to just discuss it? I’ve seen some really petty/vicious comments and it’s sad. Shoot for me I love when people disagree with me because I want to know WHY and I like to debate about it. LOL!

  • It seems like you guys have differing opinions on romance! I’ve heard so many mixed things about Beautiful Disaster that I want to read it. Like seeing a car accident happen. Haha.

  • Nick, how can you hate Beautiful Disaster?!? I thought we were book soul sisters!
    I do agree about Dare you to. I loved Pushing the Limit but I could not STAND Beth. So, I guess I can forgive you for not loving Beautiful Disaster. (PS-I didn’t like any of the books about the Maddox brothers!)

  • This post is quite funny. Quite. I think I laughed the whole time. The differing opinions is funny. I definitely did not care for Ignite Me. I still don’t get the hype for this one.

  • I love this post for you guys going back and forth about these much hyped and loved books!!! And I can so totally see both point of views on these, too! I haven’t read these all but I know enough – especially Beautiful Disaster. UGH, I won’t read that just on principle of the author drama associated with her. I think I’m with Nick on the story, anyways. But I did LOVE Beth from Dare You To, I understood her anger – it never bothered me and it was uber romantic in my opinion 🙂

    Can you guys compare more books?? So fun!!

  • SO much yes. I am so appalled by the actions I have seen the past few days, I cannot even form words. Because… why? And also… who cares? If you can wrap your head around it, there are people out there who (gasp) didn’t like The Hunger Games. And you don’t see me calling them names! I mean, with friends, if we disagree, sure we might say stuff to each other, but in a joking manner- NOT in the scathing and inappropriate manner that this has taken on. I haven’t read the review (of course I know what we mean here) because I haven’t read the book, but… seriously, who cares? So someone didn’t like a book you did, why does that matter AT all?

    Even you guys, as co-bloggers don’t care! Why would strangers care- and care enough to troll around on someone else’s blog just to be mean? GAH, I will try to move on, but this makes me REALLY mad.

    So a book that I disagreed with someone on… WELL, not a book, but The 100 has been polarizing with me and my friends. Like, Holly loves it like I do, but Val HATED it. And sure, we did try to get her to watch a few episodes, but she still hated it so… she doesn’t watch it anymore, and since she isn’t telling me NOT to watch it, we’re good 😉

    And I am all for a debate! You can TOTALLY tell me why you liked/didn’t like a book that I didn’t/did. Please, let’s chat about it! But there’s a difference between “yeah, I see what you mean, but I just loved it because of XYZ” and “hey assface, you’re WRONG”. (See, it’s easy to tell the difference bwhaha). ANYWAY, love this post- but hate that we have to actually tell people not to be rude!

    • Yeah, if I wouldn’t say it in person to a friend then I don’t say it online.

    • If I don’t have to love the same books that you love (and I am often in the minority) then you don’t have to love the same books I do.

  • I always miss all the drama that goes on!Anyways this post is great. I love that you two agree on so much but also that you have books you don’t. Just proves you can disagree about books without being rude or mean. I love Beautiful Disaster when I read it but I think I might feel differently if I read it today – but who knows!

  • Oh my goodness, thank you for all of the common sense in this post. I have been seeing an inordinate amount of drama on my own feed regarding ships and characters and it took some of my enjoyment from ACOMAF away. SJM’s books are like a keg of explosives for this fandom I swear to god. I completely agree with you both that even friends cannot agree all the time. See: Jeann and Jenna are probably the people I speak to most often in the blogosphere and they hated ACOMAF, we still managed to meet up last Sunday without tearing it into each other XD! I also do not understand why people have to try and convince one another they are correct – like, are you so insecure in your opinion you want it validated by everyone, including complete strangers?!

  • Now I’m curious about which book is causing such commotion. I definitely have not nice thoughts sometimes when I read certain reviews, but I keep them to myself or vent to one specific person. I wouldn’t say that kind of stuff to the person, because I may have a reaction to their opinion, but that doesn’t mean I don’t like them or want to be mean, ya know? It has taken me many years and a psychology degree to manage that anger and not attack people. Which brings me to Beth in Dare You To. lol. Oh, she is my girl! That is still my favorite book of McGarry’s. I agree though, her stories are getting tired. And OMG, Addicted to You … that is one of my top 5 favorite series. I’m so incredibly happy with the way the authors handled sex addiction and the treatment. That’s one subject that will piss me off if not done well. Okay, long enough comment. That’s what happens when I visit blogs in the morning instead of late at night I have brain power! lol

  • May

    Love this post!

  • I love this post!

    So Nick, I totally agree with you re: Shatter Me series — the whole thing was a snooze fest to me and I couldn’t even finish the first book and Beautiful Disaster (can we say train wreck?!)

    Nereyda, I’m surprised and didn’t know you didn’t like the Addicted series — I keep wanting to start that one since everyone RAVES about it! I loved the first book White Hot Kiss but the second was DNF and I hated that whole crowd sourced love triangle UGH still makes me mad and I haven’t read any JLA since

  • I love this post and how you stayed classy about your disagreements! As someone who’s dealt with all that backlash from ACOMAF this week, I’m not surprised that I’m still friends with so many bloggers who absolutely LOVED it. We respect each other’s opinions and just agree to disagree and move on, I just don’t understand people who take things so personally and attack others for it.

  • My blogger-wife, Brandee, and I usually love the same books, but there are some times when we really don’t agree. Like you, though, that doesn’t change how much we love each other!
    It’s funny how some things that really make me roll my eyes and want to throw the book to the wolves are enjoyable to her, and vice versa.
    I don’t get how our feelings about books and fictional characters can make people actually not like each other anymore – and if you hate a book I loved (yes, I’m thinking of Ignite Me!!) that’s all good. It means I can keep Warner to myself :p
    Great post.

  • Ugh I hated how some really mean things were said about personal opinions, on books, where the opinion and preference is subjective. I honestly don’t understand WHY someone else has to like the same things as you, like will it make you feel better about yourself? When have things been either wrong or right? People these days.

    ANYWAYS. I have actually read none of these books, so I cannot gush or rant with either of you hahahah. I started Shatter Me though, but I didn’t like it very much, so I won’t be continuing on! I did want to try JLA at some point, but I have no idea where to start.

    Awesome post you guys!! <3

  • This is such a great post because for some reason the bookish community seems to develop temporary insanity when it comes to certain books. Everyone seems to forget we have the right to our own opinions. We don’t all have to agree on everything, imagine how boring that would be! And then reviews would be utterly pointless.

    Really interesting reading your thoughts on these books and a good post to demonstrate we can be friends without agreeing on anything.

  • I’m with you on Ignite Me, Nick. It’s what turned me off of Ms. Mafi’s books altogether. But hey, you ladies not liking the same books is inevitable. It’s life. You would live a boring existence if you agree on all the things you read. Lol.

  • what a great post!!! In my mind, we are all different so our tastes in certain books can change. I have had this experience with some close blogging friends. Where some of my all time favorites others don’t like. And some favorites of theirs…I couldn’t enjoy at all. It happens!! 🙂 I do have Dare You To on my wishlist though, even though I don’t read much YA—this series does appeal to me. I do have Addicted To You on my kindle, I just need to get around to read it, especially since you have enjoyed it so much Nick.