Book Excitement vs. Social Media Interaction

Posted November 10, 2015 by Nereyda/ 69 Comments

Lets Talk I don’t mind at all if you leave a comment and you don’t agree with me.  I don’t want you to feel like you can only leave a comment if you agree with me.  I am a firm believer in being able to disagree in a respectful way so go ahead and tell me your thoughts on today’s topic. 🙂

DISCUSSIONI’ve been seeing this trend lately in the book blogging community and it really gets on my nerves.  It’s no secret that I’m not a big fan of social media.  I’ve never had a Facebook, I deleted my Instagram account years ago (when it started getting popular), I have no idea what the fuck Snapchat or Periscope is, and I just majorly suck at Twitter.  It’s not talking to people that’s the issue because I talk to Nick and Megan on Hangouts all day every day, but social media is another story.  I like jumping on Twitter from time to time to see news (yes, I get my news from Twitter) or to look up the accounts of some of the tv shows/movies I like, see which makeup brands are having sales, or just to see what’s on my feed from book bloggers/authors I follow.  I may not interact much on there, but I do go on randomly a few times a week.  I’ve already talked about how I don’t like this close relationship with bloggers and authors/publicists because it just makes things blurry, but another thing I’ve been noticing is that some bloggers/authors/publicists are under the impression or make the insinuation that only bloggers that tweet about ‘insert title name here’ book 100’s times a day or RT pretty much every tweet related to that book are more excited over other people who don’t do this..

I may not be on Twitter much and I’m certainly not gonna RT every post by that author or announce to the world when I get an ARC or when the book goes on NG or EW, but that does NOT make me any less excited over a book!  I’m sorry, but I only have a very small amount of time that I could dedicate to blogging.  I would rather spend that time reading, writing a review or discussion, replying to comments, checking my feed, or texting my friends about books we like and giving out book recommendations.  I think it’s awesome if you have several hours to spend on social media spreading the word about books or book sales, and if I liked Twitter a little bit better, I would probably be jealous, but that’s just not for me and I’m okay with it.  And even if I wanted to, I just don’t have the time, energy or desire for it.  I don’t think it’s fair for your book excitement to be measured over how much you tweet about the book or interact with the author or publicist.

A few months ago, there was some drama about whether or not posting book mail on twitter/instagram was considered bragging and I remember a few people saying that you were supposed to post pictures when you got ARC’s and if you weren’t you weren’t being a good blogger.  Um no, that’s not true.  I don’t think there is anything wrong with posting pictures of your book mail or doing book haul posts (although I do think there are definitely people who do it in a braggy way on purpose), but insinuating that you aren’t being a good blogger just because you aren’t shouting your #bookmail to the world and tagging all your ‘friend’ authors/publicists is just plain shitty.

I’ve been noticing that there are certain publishers who are now mostly sending ARC’s to bloggers that are constantly singing their praises, and I don’t know but I think it’s unfair to other bloggers.  I remember when I first started blogging, getting ARC’s was all dependent on how long you’ve been blogging and how many followers you had.  Now it seems like that has changed and interacting with publicists online trumps all that other stuff.  Sometimes I feel like a bad blogger for not properly promoting my reviews (other than scheduling my posts to automatically tweet), or posting pictures of my bookmail online, or update my reading progress every few pages, but this is how it works for me.  I’ve tried to change it a few times over the years and it’s just not for me.  I’ve decided to blog and review books for me, not for publishers.

I know it’s hard to feel like you are still relevant in the book blogging world if you don’t have an instagram, are taking pretty book pictures or if you don’t tweet about books constantly or going to book events, but just remember that none of that stuff is a requirement!  There is no one right way to blog, so just do what makes you happy.  Talk about books all day on Twitter if that’s what you like, post pretty pictures on Instagram if that’s your thing or don’t do any of it if it isn’t for you.  I probably won’t ever get in the habit of talking about books on Twitter or joining Twitter chats, but I’ll keep supporting the books and author’s I’m excited about in my own way.  For me, that’s through book reviews, WOW posts, memes, comments, emails with other bloggers, book look features, forcing my sister to read my favorite books, donating copies to my library, giving books to my niece and whatever else I think sounds fun. 🙂

What are some of your favorite ways to promote books? Which methods aren’t for you?

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Nereyda is a 31 year-old mother of two girls with addiction to Friends, fashion, books, Pinterest, Netflix, the color black and a little bit of everything else. Also, the world's worst texter...

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  • Love this!! I am so bad the Twitter. I try. I fail. I just tweet out my posts now. Maybe retweet something I like. I feel so old I can’t even keep up with a twitter convo. I do love IG. I don’t take any crazy pictures or anything. And I am bad with tagging publisher or author or whatever. It really is more for my fun than anything. I agree my main way to show and support a book is through my blog with reviews, memes and book hauls. I think that’s ok. I mean it has to be because like you, that is all I have time for. Great post!!

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    • Nick promotes all our posts on Twitter and sometimes I feel lame for not doing more, but I really do hate Twitter haha.
      I only tag an author if I am asked to, same goes for adding my reviews on Amazon. I add them all to GR, but Amazon is such a pain in the ass I only do it when asked.
      I can’t spend any more of my time on blogging, I love it but I want it to stay a fun hobby 🙂

  • I fail quite badly when it comes to Twitter, I just don’t go on there a lot and I feel Twitter is something that needs constant attention. I love using my Instagram but its for my own happiness. I love taking pictures and doing all that jazz, not to promote. Sometimes I’ll throw out a little thank you to the publisher’s way because I do appreciate it. But, I agree with you just because you share the pictures doesn’t mean you are more deserving. Someone who shares ARC’s across the board could be awful at reviewing them. They just want them to want them and never end up reviewing them and that’s pretty shitty if they get more than another said blogger is a shame. It sucks how this is working now a days. Aren’t publishers giving ARC’s so they can be shared on the BLOG not all over Twitter. I don’t know, just ranting. Lovely discussion, Nereyda 🙂

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    • I have no problem thanking authors or publishers or even showing off your books. But those super obnoxious ones that are like ‘omg, thank you to my bff ____ for sending me this epic book mail! I’ll text you my feels!’ those are annoying… It’s like they have to point out that the publisher is their friend and that they text each other. *eye roll*

      And I’m glad you bring that up because there are certain bloggers I see that brag about all the ARC’s they get, but they don’t do nothing more than spotlights on their blogs. Where are the reviews???

      Thanks for joining in my ranting Erica!

  • “A few months ago, there was some drama about whether or not posting book mail on twitter/instagram was considered bragging and I remember a few people saying that you were supposed to post pictures when you got ARC’s and if you weren’t you weren’t being a good blogger. ”

    Really? I’ve clearly been living in a dark cave with no internet access because I had no idea there was drama. Though there always seems to be drama and I just try to stay far, far away. I agree with you though Nereyda, everyone should be allowed to blog their own way. I personally don’t post pictures of books I get because I know how it makes me feel when I see other bloggers do that and then I check my mailbox and it’s empty (it feels shitty), and I don’t want to perpetuate that feeling. It doesn’t mean that I’m not excited about those books though! I absolutely am. I just have a limited amount of time I set aside for blogging during my day, and once that time is up, I move on to work and life in general and try not to worry about anything blogging-related. Maybe that makes me less popular with publishers, but that’s okay:)

    • I wrote this post like in September and forgot about it until recently. So that drama had happened a few months ago. A few people had complained about how braggy some bookmail posts/tweets were becoming and a few other bloggers (a really popular one in particular) said that you were SUPPOSED to share your ARC’s on social media and if you didn’t you were basically being a bad blogger…

      I do weekly recaps and I post whatever I get on there because personally I like to see other people’s arc’s in their posts too. Other than that, I don’t really talk about my arc’s much. It’s just not for me. And yes, if I’m not careful I could definitely spend all day on the computer. I definitely have to tell myself sometimes that it’s time to get off the computer/phone. I’d rather spend what little time I have doing things I actually like and social media is not on the list! 🙂

  • (Curious about what sparked his post) As always, I agree with you.

    It bothers me how influential social media is. From a blogger standpoint, I noticed that followers, visits and ALL interactions on ALL platforms went down when I was not able to spend all my waking moments on it. It’s sad, and it honestly pisses me off. Who cares that I don’t post pictures of all books, or tweet all damn day about a book I am SO EXCITED FOR. Not me

    “I don’t think it’s fair for your book excitement to be measured over how much you tweet about the book or interact with the author or publicist.” — Shouldn’t be.

    I hate the relationships that bloggers seem to have now with publicists. It’s just all.. kiss ass. Sorry not sorry. I mean, who doens’t love to get books but c’mon. I talk a few of my contacts weekly but they don’t send me everything, either. It’s a friendly, but professional, chit chat. So it bothers me to high heaven.

    Anyway, i promote whatever way I want at the moment. There isn’t one thing that I do or don’t do, really. Whatever feels right for the book/author I am promoting. 😀

    • I actually wrote this a few weeks ago and forgot about it in my drafts until Nick reminded me of it and bugged me to post it 🙂
      It was a book that came out a few months ago and did really well and the author started certain bloggers who were very vocal about the book on social media to thank them for being especially supportive. That kind of rubbed me the wrong way… what about all the other people who read and reviewed the book? Do they count less because they didn’t constantly praise the book on social media???

      I totally get how you feel! I only have time to check my feed once a week now and I always feel like there are people who don’t comment unless you comment first. Not all, but some…

      I’m glad I’m not the only one who see those relationships as kiss ass-y. There are certain publishers/publicists who seem to love it and honestly, it’s made me not want to work with them anymore. If I like a book/author and I want to promote it, then I will. But I’m not gonna promote other things just to try to get on the publicists good side or for the possibility of an ARC. The book will be out anyway.

      • tonyalee

        I find that a lot with certain blogs too, not just on social media. Like I will see a FB post or tweet that says, “So and so said THIS about MY BOOK!” like, there are 1,001 other people that said almost the same thing! I don’t know, it’s a fine like ya know?

        I have always been EH on the commenting back thing (as Nick could attest to, since we have discussed it a lot LOL) and it’s SO SAD to see people that don’t/won’t visit because you openly said you are not around as much or on hiatus. I just believe that you should comment because you have something meaningful to say, or hell, just a “wow, i am totally getting this book now, thanks!” is enough. Not just to get returned comments. Anyway, off topic. 😛

        • Oh I hate that too. It’s like just because this person has a larger following/social media presence doesn’t mean that their opinion should matter more than other bloggers…

          You can definitely tell who leaves comments just to get comments and it’s annoying… I do a lot of checking my feed on my phone and saving certain posts I want to comment on for later. Sometimes that later happens much later than I was hoping or not at all and it sucks feeling like I’m ignoring people…

  • I think this is a great discussion because I too, am not huge on social media. I do have accounts but I rarely use them and if I do I tweet about something once and then move on.

    I don’t think it is fair to assume that someone loves something more because they talk about it constantly, I think the actual review should speak for itself. I know this means I will miss out on a lot of wonderful ARCs but I’m okay with that because like you, I don’t have time to spend all day on the computer.

    Should those that do get better access to ARCs? No, I don’t think so. Yes I see the appeal to publishers and authors but what happened to reviews being enough? I don’t know, that rubs me wrong and no not because I’m jealous but because I work just as hard to read and review books as the next person and shouldn’t be punished because I don’t have hours to spend online each day telling the world about them.

    Hmm, you really have me thinking now! 😛 I don’t know. I don’t see it getting better any time soon sadly.

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    • I’m so glad you got exactly how I feel about this! I am super excited about Winter but I never once tweeted anything about it. Doesn’t make me any less excited over those that did. But when it comes time to post my review, I will do everything I can to promote it through my review.

      Another blogger brought up a great point that just because these bloggers are praising the book/their ARC on social media, doesn’t always mean they do an actual review…
      And sadly, I don’t see things getting better either which makes me sad.

  • Great topic!
    I’m pretty active on social media. Especially facebook and twitter. I’m on Instagram too, but my pictures suck most of the time, so. 😛 I try to promote the books that I’ve actually read & loved or at least enjoyed enough to recommend it to others.

    • Man, some of those book pictures are really gorgeous! I have no talent for that either. There is nothing wrong with promoting books you love, and there are a bunch of different ways to do that 🙂

  • I don’t think anyone is in position to tell you what you should or shouldn’t do with your books, or anything in general! There are a wide variety of bloggers. You blog what you like, and no one else can tell you what to do. That’s the joy of owning your own blog. I’m very big on social media, and I absolutely love sharing all of my books/reviews/ARC’s with the world, and I understand other people don’t. And it’s completely okay!
    There are so many more issues to be worrying about, why are people judging you on what you decide to do with your blog/books? Ugh! Lol. It irritates me.

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    • I really can’t stand when people try to tell other people how to blog or how to promote books, it gets on my nerves. I have nothing against bloggers using twitter and instagram to promote books if that’s what works for them. The part that frustrates me is that I feel like that is trumping reviews, which is what I thought was the point of ARC’s…

  • I am not a huge fan of bookstagram accounts. (Book bloggers that only post book pictures on instagram or are only on instagram.) It seems like a huge waste of time to me but I understand some people like to look at pretty pictures before or instead of reading the book. Twitter, I try to stay on top of but its almost like a full time job. If I’m not on every hour I miss something huge and everyone is talking about it all day and I just don’t car enough to get involved. I’m a introvert and so that might also be an issue but I like blogging to connect with other readers/bloggers. I don’t blog for publishers/authors and I don’t agree with them dolling out books to the select few who sing their praise every single day. The only time I actively try to promote something (besides the schedules posts on tumblr, twitter, google+, etc that I don’t really have to put any effort into) are the books I LOVE and normally those are the ones I spend my own money on.

    • I feel like unless you are on Twitter constantly, then there is no point. I have my posts set to go out to twitter and tumblr automatically, but other than that, I don’t really do much else. But I already read and reviewed the book, which is what I thought that’s what I should be doing…

      • Exactly! Publishers send me a book to review/give my opinion on, so why should they expect anything more from me? I’m not going to through a twitter party for the book because otherwise they should have just paid for a book blitz or something. We have lives outside of blogging, they need to realize that. (Sorry for the rant)

        • Sometimes those Twitter party invitations are intense and as bad as it makes me feel, I just ignore them. I have a busy life with my kids and sometimes I just have to leave to do things and I don’t like committing myself to scheduled events. Plus, like I said, Twitter just isn’t for me.
          And yes, I feel like sometimes bloggers expect too much of us. Like, I’m really grateful for any ARC’s but can’t I just read/review it and move on? 🙂

  • What an interesting topic. I had no iea this was going on, since I spend very little time on social media. I just don’t have time to do the blog stuff, answer comments and then spend another hour or so on social media. I have a family and I am busy. I have never heard that you must post pictures of your ARCS, and I totally agree that some people do it in a braggy way. I am to the point where I don’t care so much about getting ARCS because I am tired of always having to be reading something that publisher send and putting off books I want to read. I am starting to blog more and more for me.

    • I have two girls in school and I swear, their homework pretty much means it’s my homework too. I thought I was done with homework and projects when I finished school. I also have a 11-month old I take care of 11-12 hours of the day so I definitely don’t have time to spend on social media.

      I don’t understand this arc obsession. It’s like it’s more about having a book before anyone else instead of being able to read a book early. The book will come out anyway!

  • Good for you! I’m always so proud of you for speaking your mind about things. I wish I could be more like that… but I had conflict. And the few times I have expressed my feelings, I feel like I get bashed down by so many… and I can’t help but take it personality. Maybe some day I’ll grow some balls. LOL!! Anyway, I totally agree that those things are NOT required to be a good blogger!! I’m constantly telling Becca how different things are now than when we started 5 years ago. It’s like a totally different community!! And I hate that somehow now we’re considered the ones that aren’t “doing it right” when really, we’ve been doing it SO MUCH LONGER!! There’s no “right” way to do it! For me, I have the most difficult time being active on Twitter. I’ve tried and tried… but honestly, no ones chats with me, so oh well. LOL I post things constantly, get no response, then give up. Whatever. My newest thing, personally, is Instagram. I absolutely ADORE seeing pictures of books. It makes me very happy. So that is where I spend the majority of my social media free time. Twitter and I will never get along, and that’s okay.

    I was thinking about this the other day… how somehow people are cracking down on US for doing things wrong/weird/different, when really, we’ve been doing it SO MUCH longer, so why is our way wrong? (And I totally agree that when we started, getting ARCs and socializing with authors/publishers was really unheard of. You had to grow your blog and prove you were successful before getting recognized. And no one really interacted like they do now… you’d tweet your post and maybe get a retweet if you were lucky. The end. And it was good that way!) I can’t help but get defensive when someone criticizes others’ blog or the way they go about doing things. Just do your own things, do what makes you happy, and who cares what others think?! Everyone needs to stop judging everyone else. Who cares if they get certain books, post memes (which some don’t like – whatever!!) or review a certain way. If you don’t like it, don’t go to their blog or unfollow them! Can’t we all just get along?!! Great post! <3

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    • Oh Lisa, your comment cracked me up. I have this thing with not knowing how to keep my mouth shut… it embarrasses my family sometimes but they are used to it 🙂

      You know, I haven’t really had a problem so far… mostly because I think the bloggers I have issues with (the things I usually talk about) don’t even follow my blog which is okay with me 🙂 You knows, they could be subtweeting the shit out of me, you know how that goes but I have a hard time finding any shits to give…

      OMG, don’t even get me started on all those posts that try to tell us all the right and wrong ways to blog! I practically have that post written in my head. I don’t understand why people feel the need to tell others how to blog. Especially when they have been blogging for like a year. Next month is my 4 year blog anniversary and I can tell you that there is not ‘right’ way to blog.

      I can’t help but feel like I’m intruding or being nosy if I try to get in on someones conversation on Twitter. When I do try to interact (well I used to), I got ignored because I wasn’t one of the ones who was constantly on there.

      One of my friends who doesn’t really review YA as much tweeted her review of Six of Crows last month a few times and tagged the publisher and never once got a rt or favorite, meanwhile other bloggers that are constantly saying how much they want certain arc’s get recognized all the time. It’s annoying…

      Twitter is not for me and even though I don’t have an instagram, i still check up on a few accounts. Your book pictures look like fun 🙂

  • I really love this post. In general I wouldn’t say I’m the best when it comes to social media. The main reason I use social media is really to browse and talk to fellow bloggers/friends. I’ve heard about this drama but I was (and still am) new to blogging at the time and didn’t really know enough to have a clear understanding on the topic. There is no right/wrong way to blog and at the end of the day as long as you enjoy what you’re doing you should keep doing it and not be judged for it. I started my blog because I found that I loved writing reviews and discussing books with other readers. I don’t really care much for ARCs because I usually have a pretty hefty pile of books to read as it is. At the end of the day I blog for myself and so I’m going to be honest about whether I love/hate a book and I don’t plan on changing that anytime soon. Great post.

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    • I cant stand when people think their way of blogging is the only right way, it annoys me!
      And yes, blogging for yourself is the best thing for me. It keeps blogging fun and more of a hobby instead of a chore.
      Thanks Lois 🙂

  • I remember the days when i used to be SOCIAL MEDIA SAVY 24/7.Those days seem like a century ago….Seriosuly…who has the time anymore? Not me. I completely suck at instagram and twitter these days and while i love reviewing and blogging, posting pictures and talking to publishers via social media all day, everyday is incredibly taxing. seriously…a girl’s got to live, you know? Really great post Nereyda!

    • I just can’t with social media. I have my posts to automatically send to twitter and tumblr and that will just have to be enough for me.
      I used to think it was cool to talk to authors/authors on twitter or by email… until I would hate or dislike a book they sent me and things would just get awkward. I’d rather avoid that, so if it means I’ll miss out on ARC’s because I don’t talk to them, then oh well.
      Thanks Lily!

  • You know what’s funny, I was just walking to work this morn & something similar to this popped into my head: Just because I may not get to read a book before it’s released/get a coveted ARC like someone else does not make them any better than me. I can fangirl with the best of them after a book is released and maybe even give it more love than those who read it beforehand. Who knows?! Anyways, just a thought that crossed my mind (it’s more detailed than that, but just saying). So yeah, I’m actually shying more and more away from social media, esp regarding the book comm aspect, but I am making it a point to connect with others in more meaningful ways. 30 is really making me reevaluate my life, my choices, and such. Btw, we need to chat more on Google, lol! I’m so bad at IM’ing ever since AIM died.

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    • Ha, all my discussion post ideas come from weird places, mostly the shower 🙂
      I’ve been seeing this super popular blogger get these highly coveted ARC’s lately (even for books that have no ARC’s) and all she does is insert a bunch of thesaurus words with like two sentences about how she felt about the book. The rest is basically what is already stated in the summary. *eye roll*

      I get you, being a mom and having to deal with other stuff kind of makes you feel like ‘what is the point?’ of this sometimes. This is why I debated quitting earlier this year, but now that I have Nick it’s made blogging/reading a fun hobby again.

  • THIS POST IS EVERYTHING Nereyda, I applaud you for speaking your mind on this because I can definitely sense a change in the community. I completel agree with the sentiment that no matter how you celebrate blogging, no matter how you promote a book and whether you choose to focus on reviews, social media, instagram, youtube, or whatever, that whatever that is, that is RIGHT FOR YOU.

    I was thinking about this the other day, and it’s really easy for bloggers/other people to criticise those that choose to celebrate the ARCs and the books they get via haul posts, or via twitter interactions, or social media interactions. But kudos to those bloggers for actually putting themselves out there! As a blogger, I’ve always chosen to be as diverse with my platforms as possible – so I AM one of those people who DO make haul posts, shout about it from the rooftops on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook.

    I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that, because I AM a book blogger, a book fangirl, and that’s how I share it. What I wasn’t a fan of in that whole thing, was the apparent jealousy that was coming through others. Why the negativity? If you can’t beat em, then join em I say. OR just pick your own thing that you’re good at – as you have done – and run with it. Because no matter what, everyone paves their way in their own way. And whether that’s through tweeting or any other form, then good for them. It’s easy to point fingers and to criticise. But instead, why not redirect that energy into doing something that brings fulfilment upon yourself?

    Whether we like it or not, the book blogging/micro-blogging/promotion industry has changed as of late. Some people stick to pure blogging. Others stick to reviews on Goodreads. And still others stick to social media alone. The fact of the matter is, publishers are now taking all of these platforms into considering, and seeing which accounts and which forms of mediums WILL GET THE MOST SALES. Who target people IN THEIR MARKET, who they want to reach. More than ever, bloggers are sharing their platforms for promotion with other social media. This is not a bad thing, but it’s definitely not because we’re ‘left behind’. IT’s because times are changing, and that’s just how it is.

    Wow, I really didn’t think I would have gotten these feelings out if it wasn’t for your post – so thank you so much for the opportunity Nereyda! At the end of the day, I’m with you. We enjoy blogging in whatever shape or form, and JUST LET IT BE.

    • Thanks Jeann, that’s the point I was trying to make. Blogging and the way you promote books should be how YOU want to do them and not because everyone else is doing it or other people are saying you are doing it wrong if you don’t do certain things.

      I like looking at pretty pictures on instagram, and not just book but I also like looking at pretty beauty flat lays or pictures, but I have no skills so that’s just not for me. Twitter and I will never be buddies and that’s okay with me. I’ll leave it to the people like you that actually like it 🙂

      This year has had a huge shift in the book blogging world and I’m just done trying to catch up. I’ll just keep blogging and reviewing even if it ends up becoming the ‘old fashioned’ way of doing things.

      I’m like you, no matter how people like to blog, just let them be. Saying things like ‘you’re doing it wrong if you are doing (or not doing) this’ and all those blogging 101 posts that tell people how to blog as if their way is the only way is super annoying…

  • I wholeheartedly agree that posting on Twitter, Instagram etc about ARC’s or retweeting publishers posts are not requirements. Just like not doing every book blast they request. I remember when I first started I was afraid to say no to a request..boy has that changed. In the almost five years I have been blogging things have changed with what the publisher look for when granting ARCS. I am seeing more forms asking for your Twitter following numbers, Pinterest account and Instagram account. When approving on NetGalley they look at Twitter account, Goodreads reach and Amazon link. I think they are looking at more than just blog followers. I uplift new arrivals on Instagram and share release date, that cross post to Facebook page and Twitter but no publisher has ever asked me too. I say blog how you want to blog, share how you want to share, but be nice, honest and fair.

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    • I think we all go through that change eventually. I remember I was afraid to say no to any book review/book promotion out of fear that publishers wouldn’t want to work with me anymore. Now, I don’t have that fear anymore because even if all publishers stopped working with me, I have enough books to last me a lifetime.
      I hate when those forms ask for social media stats because I have to leave the facebook and instagram ones empty. But oh well, I agree with you. We should all be able to blog how we want without having anyone tell us we are doing it wrong or right 🙂

  • I used to feel envious when I see people’s hauls and I don’t have it. now I understand that it can be stressful to have a mile long publisher provided TBR. I’ll leave that to the rest, if I get declined for every arc I request from here on out, I’ll still have enough books to last me til I’m a hundred

    • ARC’s are awesome, they also add unecessary stress to something that should be fun. And yes, I have soooo many books that I don’t even think I can ever read them all. I’m good on books 🙂

  • Would it be creepy if I started to clap? Who even cares, I am going to do it anyway. THIS. POST. I cannot tell you how many times I have thought some of these things in my head, and just, YES! I have so much to say, so novella incoming 😉

    First, you are spot on about the very vocal getting much more attention from publishers. It’s disheartening sometimes because when I started, it was like you said- you built up your platform, and did things in a particular (and professional) way. So no, I never went on Twitter and praised some book I hadn’t even read yet. And I feel like now that I may be getting more established, and maybe could have started getting ARCs the “old” way, I am not gushing all over the place so I can’t get them the “new” way, and I am stuck in some kind of blogger purgatory where I will never be “big” enough to be noticed either way! (Not that I am saying that ARCs are the be all and end all, it’s just an example.)

    Now, here’s where things get a little tricky. So, I like to post books on Instagram, and do weekly recaps where I post my books. I always have, LONG before I ever got even an eARC, so I am definitely fine with that. BUT, I had gotten a particular book a few weeks ago. The sender of the book contacted me to see if I had gotten it and if I’d be interested in some promotional stuff, and I said yes, because I truly do enjoy the author’s work. When I responded as such, I was asked for links to the places I shared pictures and/or info about the book. I was completely caught off guard- I’d never been asked that before! I did send the links, but it made me feel uneasy- because I don’t really think that ANYONE should tell you how to interact with your audience OR a book.

    And I definitely think that the boundaries are becoming very muddied. I have chatted a bit on Twitter with a few authors- but here’s the thing: I have never chatted with them ABOUT the book. Because to me, that IS crossing a line. I will totally chat with whoever about random stuff though, because I like to talk (clearly, from the length of this post!) Now, a little “here’s my review of @so-and-so’s AMAZING book”, that I can live with.

    Ultimately, it just seems like every single step of the process, no matter what processes we choose, are becoming so, so competitive. There is no “right” way to blog. But it seems like every time one particular style of blogging, or media outlet, or WHATEVER earns someone attention, people are flocking to whatever it is to outdo each other. And that is just simply unauthentic. I am a firm believer in carving your own niche, however that is, and whatever way you like. I don’t like that anyone should be deemed “less than” for choosing a different path. I mean, I personally would NOT want to visit a bunch of blogs/bloggers who were just copies of each other. I doubt anyone else would either.

    P.S.- What the actual fuck is Periscope? I googled it and got some results about a movie with Kelsey Grammar? I assume that isn’t it 😉 Also, Snapchat doesn’t make sense to me. I think I am showing my age hahah.

    • Your comments always make me smile Shannon, thanks for that 🙂

      I don’t request many books now, but the rare times I do, I didn’t even add my usual stats like page views and monthly visitors and all that stuff and I haven’t seen a difference yet. Nobody has asked me so I’m thinking they don’t really care about that stuff anymore. I totally get you, I feel like what I’m doing now is not enough but a part of me doesn’t care and isn’t sure I want to try the ‘new’ way.

      And oh man, I was once asked to tweet a picture of a certain ARC, which I don’t normally do. I said I would try and I got an email a few days later asking me again to tweet a picture of my ARC. I felt a little bit weird about that. I featured it in my weekly recap and I posted my review, so I did promote it, I just didn’t like feeling like I was being… pressured to do more.

      I hate how blurry the lines are between bloggers and publicists and authors now. Bloggers that are always talking to publicists and let’s be honest, kissing ass to get books (we can tell the difference) I just don’t trust them and maybe that’s shitty of me, but that’s how I feel. I don’t want reviews to be sugarcoated or even lie about their thoughts just because they are afraid to hurt their feelings…

      I have no idea what Periscope is and Snapchat seems like another Instagram but I could be wrong.

      • Wow, they don’t even care about the stats!? What the hell do they want then? I mean, I don’t have some kind of “blogger cool kid” rating to share (and if I did, I doubt I’d want to advertise it 😉 ) Maybe THAT is why I get rejected hahaha.

        YES! That is exactly it- it feels like being pressured, and I don’t like that at all. I don’t think an ARC is some kind of thing that can be held over your head. Like, “dance, puppets, here is your free book!”. That isn’t the point at all. I get the whole business end of it, but if it goes too far in that direction, no one will trust reviewers at all.

        Okay, this is funny, because in my original comment, I had started to say stuff about kissing ass- and how it is absolutely happening- but I was afraid so I deleted it 😀 But now, let’s do this! My two cents? You can’t fawn all over an author who has not even released a book. PLUS, after these people spend months singing praises of a whole bunch of authors whose books they haven’t even read yet, I am supposed to trust that their reviews are unbiased? Nope, sorry, not even possible. I like giving a little extra love to debuts- sometimes a giveaway, or whatever. But I don’t ever pretend to love the book, because NO ONE has read it yet! It’s ridiculous! And I am going to give my possibly unpopular opinion here, but while some bloggers are absolutely just excited, some are also absolutely fishing for ARCs. And the worst part is, it is WORKING. Kissing ass all over Twitter is giving bloggers who have been around for like 3 months access to stuff that the rest of us have been working YEARS to get. I don’t just mean ARCs either.

        Snapchat seems dumb. A few friends tried to get me to do it, but I didn’t get it and then uninstalled it hahah.

        • I want to give you a virtual hug right now because I agree with you 100% and I don’t think we should be afraid to say what we think, ever! I feel like everything is so calculated. Every time I see this type of post: ‘Super jealous because everyone but me is reading ____ by @authorname’ 90% of the time that blogger will magically have a copy of the book. I say shady…
          And yes, it is sad to see newer bloggers get so many arcs just because they kiss ass, fawn all over a book that isn’t even out yet, and host a bunch of author events or chats is bullshit.
          Nice chatting with you Shannon!

  • I agree with so much you have said here, Nereda. I’m terrible at social media, it just does not come naturally to me -lol. I try to send a tweet for book reviews and on Goodreads, but that’s it. I rather read a kick-ass – meaning one that’s any kind passionate, than tons of tweets or promotional only. I’ve stayed a small blog I think, for this reason, I don’t just randomly tweet, follow, friend, or whatever is popular and it seems some publishers only want those #’s and those social interactive in a way that I’m not.
    Thanks for the thoughtful post, Nereda!

    • I feel like nowadays, you have to be willing to ‘play the game’ and kiss a lot of ass to get ARC’s and well, that just plain sucks because I don’t like that…
      If I’m gonna get denied for a book, I’d rather it be because another blogger has more followers/page views/comments/has been blogging longer than me, not because I haven’t talked to the publicists on twitter.

  • I feel like this post is a Failure at Social Media Support Group *hugs everyone*
    I used to (literally!) have a checklist of everything I was supposed to do after I read a book: Write review. Post on Goodreads. Post on blog. Tweet. Facebook. tumblr. Instagram. Then I realized a) this is an unpaid hobby and b) I have other things in my life that are important to me. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with posting book mail if you’re excited about it, but my goal is to read the book and review it. If I can do more than than, great. I’d rather do one thing and do it well. I like writing reviews and commenting and getting comments and I think I do all that pretty well. I sometimes tweet or Instagram if I feel like it, but I no longer feel obligated to do my checklist. If that means I get fewer ARCs, so be it.

    • Ha, we should totally start a support group! ‘My name is Nereyda and I suck at social media and I’m okay with that!’
      I’ve seen those social media checklists and it just seems like so much work. Not for me. I don’t usually post pictures of my books online but I don’t have a problem with it. But I do like sharing them on my weekly posts because I always like seeing them in other posts 🙂
      Commenting is hard for me but I still like to do it, even if I only have time to do it once a week. I like that level of interaction.

  • I’m in social media, but I feel like I don’t do nearly enough. I do work full-time, plus I’m a mother of there, a wife, and I just have the time to take beautiful pictures or constantly check every account I have. I do try to check Twitter, Facebook and Instagram two or three times a week. Facebook is more of a way to keep up with family and friend that a blogging platform for me though.

    You’re right, I think that social media has made easier to connect with publishers, publicists and authors and to promote books in different ways, other than actually reading and reviewing it. Great post (as always) Nereyda 🙂

    • I always feel like I fail at social media, I just don’t think it will ever be for me…

  • Love this! I’m not very good at social media either and I really honestly don’t care anymore. I share my posts and if I see something I like I’ll share it. Otherwise, I’m doing whatever the hell I want and I think that’s the way it should be.

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    • I like your motto Ashley!

  • With the internet age, it is so easy to get left behind and I dislike having to pay catch up all the time. Half the time I still don’t know what I am doing on twitter. And I don’t think the twitter platform would be here to stay in the long run… I am dreading the day that bloggers will have to bust out snapchat to engage in the community — NOOOO I can’t use that thing XD

    I love what you said about fans are all equally valid, regardless of how we engage with book news or bookmail. I still think twitter has its place for parts of the community though – so I am glad there’s something for everyone? I wish there was not a pressure to have to use social media, and I think you should step away from it if it’s feels like it’s not for you!

    • It’s funny but the book blogging world always seems to be a few steps behind when it comes to social media. I follow a lot of beauty bloggers and they’ve already moved on from twitter, to youtube, to instagram to snapchat. That seems to be all the rage lately so you know that will most likely show up in our community soon…

      I definitely think there are different ways for bloggers to promote books, I just don’t like the idea that any of those methods are ‘better’ than other. I’ve tried to to the twitter thing and I hated it so I’m just not gonna bother and focus on what I do like instead 🙂

  • Thank you for a wonderful post Nereyda! I completely agree with so much of what you have said here. I love social media when it’s non book related, I use it as a personal Facebook and Instagram page mainly and I have an account on twitter but I can’t remember the last time I looked at it.

    I don’t feel using social media to promote books/authors/publishers is a requirement; my promotion is on my blog and through Goodreads & that’s pretty much it and what I feel is enough, I have no time in the day as it is – I do have a blog Facebook page that automatically tweets a post but I suck at updating that.

    I remember this too -> “getting ARC’s was all dependent on how long you’ve been blogging and how many followers you had” & I had no idea about this -> “you were supposed to post pictures when you got ARC’s and if you weren’t you weren’t being a good blogger”. I’m so out of the loop these days 😉

    Love this post! Sharon – Obsession with Books

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    • Funny, I the few times I do use social media it’s also mostly non-book related. I think if you can or if you like to promote on social media, then it’s okay. But it shouldn’t be a requirement or it shouldn’t be better than simply writing reviews.
      I feel old in the book blogging world!

  • So many truths here. Like, really. If it’s my blog, don’t tell me how to run it. Unless I ask for suggestions, I like very much how mine looks. I think it goes the same for everyone else.

    I don’t think social media is a necessity but it’s a fun addition. I’m so bad at Twitter, too! I sometimes try to talk to authors and I RT things I like and giveaways and whatever, but yeah. I made a Snapchat once but I didn’t know how to use it, so I ended up deleting it. I used to be majorly envious when I saw everyone’s #bookmail but after a while, I just started admiring it because really it’s such a cool, exciting thing. Nothing annoys me more than to see bloggers clawing for ARCs or . Like, I get it, they’re pretty much made of glitter and Disney magic, but PLEASE GET A HOLD OF YOURSELF. Is that the sole purpose of your blog? It makes me embarrassed for those who do that.

    Lovely, truthful post, Nereyda!

    • Nothing brings out the ugly side of bloggers like book book conferences huh? I’ve been to a few ALA’s and I literally went for like two hours, got a few books and left. No need to tweet out all my books or anything. I’ve seen the ugly side of bloggers when they get jealous other people are getting books. I don’t mind bloggers posting pictures of their books but there is a classy way to do it and a totally obnoxious and braggy way to do it. I see A LOT of the second during ALA. It’s like, how do you expect other people not to get mad??

      Anyway, I’m so glad to see that I’m not the only the only one that majorly sucks at social media 🙂

  • I’m not a massive fan of social media either as a whole Nereyda, I’ve only recently joined Instagram and rarely post but I do enjoy the quick fire interaction on Twitter though. I can definitely understand and relate though. I always thought it was because I was older (mid thirties) and just don’t get the hype of taking photos of everything that moves and used to thank publishers privately for sending unsolicited review copies (I rarely request anything). But sometimes and especially lately, I just don’t have the time. I used to think it was all about social media presence too though, but in Australia our publishers seem to be pretty generous especially with new bloggers and those with a smaller audience. I just don’t have the time to constantly keep promoting and would hate to think it’s expected of me too. It’s just added pressure you don’t need.

    • I am super jealous of how generous Australian publishers are! I don’t think they play the game like US publishers and are happy to send books to people who are excited to read them 🙂

  • Cee

    Social media is hard. It’s sometimes so hard to get into conversations on Twitter. I always feel like the odd person out because I’m never reading or into the books that everybody is talking about. I try, but it’s so hard.

    Publishers like to see see readers/bloggers promote the book because raving about it on twitter or taking pics of it on social media are great to get people interested. Those people who always singing praises are the ones who they having a big audience in getting others to engage in a discussion about the book. I can see why publishers would gravitate towards them. It sucks though, but it’s okay.

    In blogging, just do what you want. Don’t care about publishers and followers. Care for the love of books!

    • That’s exactly what I think, you should blog how you want and bloggers shouldn’t tell anyone they are doing it ‘wrong’ just because they aren’t doing it ‘their’ way 🙂

  • Personally for me, I love instagram. I love taking pictures and adding to the picture whatever I can find in my house haha Twitter is another story. I try to keep up with it, I try to tweet but I always forget. I now sometimes share my pictures from instagram on there but besides that and the posts of the blog, I don’t do much on there. But I do know what you mean. I know one or two accounts that rave about a book for days!!! I mean, I get you like it but it’s all the freaking time. Their twitter profile only talks about one book for days. And sometimes they tag the publisher and the author and then the author starts talking to them all enthusiastically and I’m here like…….. No fair. We have to go through the struggle of requesting and if we’re lucky, get unsolicited mail (at least for me, it’s because I’m lucky). Even when I started last year with blogging, what publishers looked for was your stats and how much you had, if your blog had traffic, etc. And like you said, now it appears that the only thing you need to do is rave about them constantly. It really saddens me. For me, I love posting when I get ARCs. Not to brag, not at all. It’s just rare for me to get physical arcs so when I do, it’s like a mini party in my house.
    This is a great post Nereyda! Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

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    • Today I caved and requested my first ARC in MONTHS for a book I really really want… and I was told to contact a blogger that is putting together the tour to see if she will let me be on the tour and if she did then they would send me an eARC… isn’t it their job as publicists to be in charge of ARC’s??? Since when did the decision include other bloggers??? That really annoyed me, I’d rather be denied or lied to and have them say they don’t have any copies. I politely declined that offer…

      Also, I used to get ARC’s from the old publicist at S&S, but since the new publicist came on ALL my emails have been ignored/dismissed. It’s not like anything changed, if anything my stats got better but because I didn’t kiss her ass before, my request are being ignored. Oh well, their loss.

      I tell Nick all the time, if we were willing to play the game then we could possibly have so many arc’s. But we don’t like that and we don’t want to be shady bloggers who have an agenda for every tweet and post.

      I’m like you, I don’t request any books anymore because the whole process annoys me so the mail I do get now is unsolicited. I always post the books I do get on my weekly recap posts, I don’t see anything wrong with posting them/promoting them. But you can definitely tell who is genuinely excited for them and who is just bragging and wants to rub the arc’s in people’s faces.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts Genesis! It’s nice to know we aren’t the only ones that notice this kind of behavior 🙂

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  • I have SO MANY thoughts on this topic, and I kept meaning to share. I’ve noticed this trend, as well, that if you’re not as active on social media, you’re somehow not as excited about a book or even blogging. Or, like you’re not doing as much as others just because you’re not there all the time and sharing everything. It’s like the loudest voices are the ones people pay the most attention to, not the most genuine. And I think that there are a lot of people on social media who don’t feel genuine at all, based on the way they interact with people, and especially with publishers. It seems that it’s now more about who is, like you say, singing the most praises. Also about WHO you know and how you come across, not about your content or your blog. And I think there are people who are using that, as a way to get ARCs and invites and the like. I see so much ass-kissing and name dropping, and I’m so tired of it I’ve stopped following a lot of those people who do it.

    Social media can be great, but I think it’s blurred the line between bloggers and publishers/authors that it’s hard to tell who’s even being genuine anymore and who only seems to care about the popularity and “rewards” for their blogging. And I don’t think it’s fair either to measure someone’s excitement by how much they tweet about a book or author. That’s not always true! I’m very excited about, even if I don’t talk about them, but I’ll still show my support anyway, in my own ways. And I think that’s totally okay. Why be like everyone else, you know? Also totally agree with Shannon’s comments above. That’s exactly how I feel about everything; she just said it in a better way than me. Haha.

    I hope that all made sense! I think a lot has changed about blogging even in the 3 years I’ve been doing, and I’m not so sure how much I like the direction it’s going. Really, really great post, Nereyda! Thanks for not being afraid to speak your mind, because usually you’re saying stuff we ALL feel but are too scared to post ourselves. 🙂

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    • It really makes me so happy to see that I’m not the only one who has noticed all the inside kiss-assing and fakeness going on!

      I mentioned this in a previous reply, but I used to have pretty good luck with a certain publisher. I wasn’t friends with the publicists or anything and the only interaction we had was when I sent formal review requests (even though she totally knew who I was by then, I still introduced myself). Earlier this year, they got a new publicists that used to work for another YA publishing company (and who I’ve never interacted with, she never replied to my emails when she was at the old company) and ever since then ALL of my request have been ignored. It’s not like I started doing something wrong or like it my stats declined or anything, but just because I wasn’t ‘friends’ with her I’m not cool enough to get books from them I guess. Oh well, their loss…

      I think as long as we are promoting books in our own way, then we are still doing things right. I dread this bookstagram movement because in beauty and fashion blogs, companies pay instagrammers with huge followings JUST to post pictures of their products. They don’t even have to review or anything, which is so not fair. I hope this never happens in the book world. Once bloggers start getting paid for promos, I’m probably getting the fuck out of here! I have enough problems trusting bloggers as it is!

      And I think it’s crap that certain bloggers make the rest of us scared to talk about stuff like this, especially when it’s the truth. I’m just glad you guys are always supportive of my discussion posts.

      Thanks Holly!

  • I have noticed that the more vocal people on Twitter tend to get publicist’s attention much quicker. I guess that’s just the way it is now so I’m not going to waste my time fretting over it. I have a full time job that requires a lot of my attention and Ash can’t even go on Twitter at her job so we are just not able to be those kinds of bloggers. And when I’m not at work, I don’t want to be on social media all the time anyway. I honestly don’t know how some people do it. But I agree, that does not mean they are more excited about books or more supportive or more grateful. I think it just means they have more time on their hands and/or choose to devote their time to social media

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